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My son Billy hung himself 2 1/2 years ago would be turning 20 on the 6th January 2006 - I am only now starting to get a spark back to life - to all those going through the same traumatic situation heres a few things that helped me survive - Belief in a higher power and reliance on God through prayer and throwing this huge burden on Him My close friends were very supportive and I relied very much on them - just practicle things like fixing me meals, doing errands, etc. It was best I not be alone - having people around was very helpful Cry alot - you just have to do this for years if necessary - its very painful and loosing someone you love in suicide is a thousand times more painful than loosing someone from old age, physical illness, accident - because you are left with a huge burden of guilt (over and over you keep asking your self questions that cant be answered - how could I have prevented this - what did I do to cause it etc. etc. etc. , stigma (sometimes other people can judge you and this adds to your pain) Take 5 miniutes at a time - if you dont think you can get through the day just focus on small accomplishments Mornings are the worst time - As soon as I wake up the first thing that hits me like a punch in the stomach - My wonderful boy is gone and everything else thats happened spirals me down down down into the pit of despair I finally worked out a term for my suffering and its called Post Traumatic Stress - look this up and follow all the advice on dealing with it It helps if you have other children because they give you a good reason to go on. I havn't found any suicide support groups - I was living on the Gold Coast and now in Byron Shire NSW It helps reading WhiteWreath to know Im not alone I learned something from the Tsunami victims when a woman lost her child - she said I just have to blot it out of my mind because if I think about it too much I will go crazy - denial can be helpful sometimes If anyone else can add to this list I would really appreciate it and others would too I hope you all learn how to manage your loss - I don't think you can completly recover in the world as we know it now - here are a few verses to meditate on from the Bible that give hope Revelation 21:3,4 - promises in the new world to come all death, pain, suffering will be a thing of the past Isaiah 26:19 - Those of our people who have died will live again, Their bodies will come back to life, All those sleeping in their graves will wake up and sing for joy, As the sparkling dew refreshes the earth, so God will revive those who have long been dead

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Cool guestbook. Interesting information.

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I have recently lost my hubby to suicide in fact its been 9 weeks he took his life on 8th of Oct this year the night before I turned 35 he left me with 3 small children the youngest was 8 weeks old , We hadnt even been married 5mths.im very angry and sad that he had no faith in himself he had to try and prove himself to everybody that he new .He came across as been very confident but his poor soul was screaming at him inside telling him he was no good at life and was a terrible father & husband..He was the most loving giving man I have ever met he had the most awesome smile and to be around he was the life of the party he told me every day how wonderful I was and how happy he was to be with me.He completed ME and he also said i completed HIM Our life, was complete now Im dying my other part of me has gone and I dont know who to turn to or even where to start. His family is blaming me for his suicide and is sueing me for money that he borrowed in January this year. Is there any support groups in Perth I need to talk to people who are going through the same thing as I am I have seen a counsellor but how can they even understand what im going through only people with this same devistation can even imagine the pain and loss we are going through every second of the day.

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This one's for you kate. Remembered Always.

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I Knew Aaron ,me and my friends grew up with him,he was a good friends with my older borther until high school changed them both.Every single day i think about debbie (Aarons mum) and the pain she goes through from losing her son im sad i wasnt closer to him because i heard he was a great guy and a really good friend to everyone.Good Bye Aaron your sadly missed by everyone.

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My wife Angela of 27 years took her own life on 21/10/2005. She was 50 years old. I and our 4 adult children (first grandchild on the way)now need to find the strength to go on. My wife didn't tell the doctors everything and I wasn't asked. You have a new member... wouldn't it be nice if you didn't?